7 Tips to Make Mediation a Success

7 Tips for a Successful Mediation

Mediation can be a cost-effective and proactive way of resolving many sensitive issues, particularly those related to marriage breakdown, including finances, property, and child custody. However, many fear that mediation will be a difficult and painful process, particularly if there are communication problems between the parties. In reality, mediation can create a safe place to resolve issues and establish mutually beneficial agreements while ensuring that everyone feels heard.

To make the most out of your mediation, here are seven proven tips to ensure that your session is a success:

  1. Focus on the Overall Goal
    The overall goal is to create a harmonious family atmosphere for your children, where they are in a safe and regular routine, spending time with both parents. Keep this in mind as you go through the mediation process.
  2. Commit to Participating
    Mediation will only work if both parties are committed to participating and reaching a compromise. This will also ensure that, once a compromise is reached, both parties will respect the terms of their agreement.
  3. Establish Your Personal Goals
    Before attending mediation, make a written list of the most important factors from your perspective. This will help you focus on your priorities and determine what you could compromise on.
  4. Anticipate the Other Party’s Goals
    Establish goodwill by anticipating something that is important to the other party and offering to compromise on this goal. This will help create a positive and productive environment.
  5. Take a Team Approach
    Instead of taking a confrontational approach, consider a team approach where both parents work together to establish the right resolution. This is better for your family and can lead to better outcomes.
  6. Leave Unrelated Baggage Out of the Discussion
    There are often numerous unresolved issues related to the breakup, but most of these have no direct connection to your commitment as parents. Focus on the issues at hand and leave unrelated baggage out of the discussion.
  7. Active Listening
    Be prepared to listen to what the other party has to say, so you can respond effectively and reach an amicable resolution. This will show that you respect the other party’s opinion and are open to finding a mutually beneficial solution.

At Shane McClure, we provide professional mediation services in Melbourne and Victoria. Our experienced and impartial team will take the time to listen to both parties and walk you through the mediation process, answering any questions that you might have prior to sitting down at the table and starting the session. Our mediation sessions can be scheduled in-person, by telephone, or by video, as we understand that no relationship is the same.


In conclusion, mediation can be a successful and cost-effective method for resolving many sensitive issues. By following these seven tips, you can create a harmonious family atmosphere and establish mutually beneficial agreements that work for everyone involved. At Shane McClure, we are committed to providing professional mediation services in Melbourne and Victoria. Learn more about our mediation services here, and let our experienced and impartial team help you reach an amicable resolution.

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