Family Violence – Understanding the characteristics of a Narcissist

Family Violence – Understanding the characteristics of a Narcissist

Often in family disputes or divorce, there can be a whole lot of blame thrown around, as both parties cope and find reasons for the relationship breaking down.

In a separation or divorce, a common cause is one of the partners in the relationship being classified as a narcissist or carrying out narcissistic behaviour.

While the term narcissist is used often in family disputes and family violence situations, understanding the disorder and the traits of a narcissist person can help to understand this personality disorder should one of the parties involved in a family dispute or relationship breakdown need a better understanding of this personality characteristic.

What can narcissistic personality disorder impact in a family situation?

When an individual is a narcissist, it can affect every part of their daily life, including their work, family life, social life, finances and education.

Individuals with the disorder can appear never to be happy with their situation, rather focused on things never being good enough and never receiving the accolades or attention they feel they deserve.

Traits of a narcissist

The Mayo Institute classifies a narcissistic personality disorder as a mental condition whereby the individual involved has an inflated sense of their own self-importance, a deep desire for attention, as well as lack of empathy for those around them including loved ones.

Traits of a narcissist can include:

  • Focus on self-importance
  • Sense of entitlement
  • Lives in a fantasy world
  • Personal admiration
  • Enhanced focus on achievements that may or may not be exaggerated
  • Envy of others
  • Focus on having the latest and greatest gadgets, belongings and personal items
  • Takes advantage of others
  • Can exploit others without feeling guilt
  • Requires constant praise

Abuse and narcissistic behaviour in a family violence situation

While we might often associate abuse with physical abuse, narcissists can carry out their negative behaviour physiologically, which can make pinpointing the behaviour very difficult.

Identifying narcissistic behaviour can be a challenge, and unless an individual understands the traits, manipulation and negative emotional issues can occur.

If you’re in a relationship or a family situation that you fear is being influenced by narcissistic behaviour or your partner is exhibiting traits of a narcissist it is important to seek support from friends, family or a therapist to take the necessary steps for your own mental health.

A narcissist can cause havoc in a family unit, and understanding the traits and behaviours of this personality disorder can help to exit a family violence situation that is emotional and/or physical.

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